Hello, friends! Easter has come and gone, and my self imposed clothes shopping ban has ended. Sorry I have been such an absentee blogger!
So my ban really wasn't a long one, and I can't really say that I've made any huge, pressing realizations. But I have learned a bit, and in the end I think it was a good exercise for me. It's not an uncommon phenomenon, but I want to shop when I'm stressed. I've had quite a few occasions in the last few weeks when I tried to make excuses to myself about why shopping would have been acceptable, but I was mostly successful. My rule was that I was able to buy things I needed for roller derby, and I stuck to that, though I did stretch the meaning of the word "need." I didn't
need a green shirt for the St. Patrick's Day parade, but I bought it so I would match with everyone else. So I feel like I broke the rules there. At least a little. But other than that, I did stick to actual "needs." I was told to buy a scrimmage shirt with my team's logo, so I did that. And I have actually used it for scrimmaging, so it was a good purchase. I bought uniform socks for a team photo. But other than that, I didn't purchase other clothes.
But I did buy things.
I noticed that I tried to make up for my lack of clothes shopping subconsciously. I ate out a bit more than usual. I bought some new nail polish and lipstick. I bought new wheels for my skates, though I bought them with birthday money. I thought I did rather well on limiting myself until I bought a new cell phone. Honestly, I don't feel bad about that. I've needed (OK, well..."needed.") a new phone for ages- I couldn't really even make phone calls on the old one anymore. But could I have waited a week for my challenge to end? Probably, but I wanted to
buy something. I tempted myself on a few occasions..I took a stroll through H&M, I walked into Ross once. I think shopping means many things to me. It is comforting, even when I don't purchase stuff. Some part of me enjoys the solitude of walking around in a store, looking at the pretty new things. I like watching people, and I like the smell of stores. How do I change that? I'm not sure I want to. It is debatable whether it is a good thing or not, but it is part of my culture. My mom, my grandmother and I used to shop together almost every month, sometimes even every weekend. We didn't always buy things, but we bonded, and I dare say we got really good at shopping. I haven't lost the skill.
Anyway, I will continue to think about this. And I'm really happy that the challenge is done. I did a bit of shopping today, though I tried not to go too crazy. I really want to make sure that I will use the heck out of the things I buy going forward. I bought two pairs of shoes that should get lots of use, a pretty black blouse with interesting, lacy details (it also helps that it was on clearance...) and some tights in colors that I know will be useful when it gets cold again (clearance again! Yeah!). So, no outfit again today, but check out my new shoes!
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| New shoes with a bonus cat foot! From Ross. |
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| New Clarks! Also from Ross, with another bonus cat foot! |
I want to continue to work on cultivating gratitude for the things I have in my life. Thanks for the help in that area, guys! I really appreciate your kind comments. You continue to be awesome, even when I'm terrible about posting things :)
How is your relationship with shopping? I think it's fascinating stuff!